This Thing Called “Life”

Is life really a frenzied, harrowing journey through infancy, youth, and adulthood to senior years? An inexorable, twisting, sometimes fascinating, but largely troubled journey from cradle to grave? Must we always be beset with excessive competition, grasping forlornly for aspirational social levels, finding the perfect life partner, trying to parent, dealing with infantile superiors, acquiring pointless wealth and assets and suchlike? And is the result of this stress-ridden misadventure not so pointless, so as to make you wonder and ask yourself, is this life? Worse, was this life?!

At every funeral we think, as we reflect on the life of the departed one – what use the riches and elevated position in society now? The wealthiest of people acquire the same stress related ailments as poor people do, and it sends them on from this life in much the same way! Disease does not differentiate. And so, as we experience, suffer and decay we pass on these profound messages to the next generation. Study, compete, listen, obey, do without, get serious, watch out, excel, be first – or else, or else…

The evidence is so depressingly, utterly visible all around us. Worried, worn frowning faces behind wheel and on cycle, on every non-existent pedestrian path, in the metro and in every crowd. Energy masses of frustration, aggravation, deprivation and pointless aspiration – walking, stumbling, running, jostling, tripping, using every legal and sometimes not so legal means to get ahead. Read or see the news lately? All of them, us, are passing this on to the next generation. And they, bless their trusting hearts are watching, listening, learning and perfecting their skills at ‘confronting’ life.

There is a mountain of evidence now that suggests that every adult is a result of what he has experienced in the first six, and to a lesser extent, first fourteen odd years of his life. His infant and childlike trusting brain has faithfully recorded the sensations, emotions, messages, frustrations, anger, good and bad feelings of his influencers – parents, family, teachers. Frequent denials, admonitions, beatings, shouting, are all absorbed and recorded as the way to behave. Worse still, influencer behaviour with others is also recorded. Children observe when parents break queues, laws and rules and deal with others unkindly or unfairly. And so, they learn.

But wait just one minute! Is it possible then, that half of the six billion people on earth are currently influencing the other half below the tender age threshold, in this manner? Could we collectively be setting up three billion young energies for a similar life of stress, eroded social values and lack of community consciousness? In this age of digital magnificence could it be possible that bad examples, wrongdoings and injustices are being more effectively proliferated?!

I ponder whether one of the most important roles our energies are entrusted with during our tryst with human life, is to leave this planet better off than when we entered. And since we, humans, are so unfailingly and wondrously adept at destroying this planet, could it be that we are currently driving the last nail home by ensuring that we do not do anything to correct the behaviour and actions of this vital three billion people? Are we consigning them to a life of unbearable stress, learning to cope with a gasping dying planet, and to hasten further its end?!

I have painted a bleak picture.  Surely there are wondrous examples of excellence and all that is right and good, and that the next generation is imbibing it. Of course, yes. But does it balance the wrong side and tilt the planet on a path of recovery? Will our children lead happier lives?  If not, can we all, collectively and individually, make a difference? I say yes to this too. By being kind to our children, letting them observe, by constant powerfully good example, of how to be and how to do. By ensuring that their tender years have the right proportion of kindness, happiness, laughter, embracing the arts, wondering at nature, playing in the dirt, enjoying the small gifts that life gives freely.  Can our children see us being kinder to fellow man, following laws, being patient, loving and being loved, being considerate of the environment, and striving for a better life but not being obsessed with it? Would the world be a better place after us then?!

I subscribe to this theory. We cannot teach our children much, they are evolved energies in constant learning mode.  But we can influence them with right thoughts, behaviours, actions, interests, love for the arts and our wondrous world, love for our neighbours irrespective of who they are, goodness and kindness.  An unfailingly good example set by personal example for them to learn, internalise and become as they become young adults. Is it not simple really? If we all set as perfect an example for a few young people, does the world not stand a better chance when they inherit it? Surely, YES! It’s only partly hypothetical and utopian – its eminently doable and achievable. 

Maybe during the earth’s evolution, before recorded history, this happened before, we turned the ship around, and we in turn inherited a beautiful earth – at least up until the last 100 odd years.  Maybe we can do it again – by being kind and loving and setting the perfect example for the next generation.  They will turn it around, inspired by our wisdom and executed by their ability. They are our only hope. But it is a grand and powerful hope!  And I, for one, believe in the power of a beautiful human energy above all else.

Be kind to children and constantly show them a perfect mind, body and soul!

I see trees of green, red roses too
I see them bloom for me and you
And I think to myself what a wonderful world

I see skies of blue and clouds of white
The bright blessed day, the dark sacred night
And I think to myself what a wonderful world

The colors of the rainbow so pretty in the sky
Are also on the faces of people going by
I see friends shaking hands saying how do you do
They’re really saying I love you

I hear babies crying, I watch them grow
They’ll learn much more than I’ll never know
And I think to myself what a wonderful world
Yes I think to myself what a wonderful world

Louis Armstrong

Christopher Tobit


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