How To Set Goals That You Will Actually Stick To?

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Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one. What great things do you want to accomplish in 2019?

The new year is almost upon us – that magical time that comes once a year when the whole world seems to celebrate the turning of the calendar – a new beginning.  A chance for a fresh start.

Many of us (including me) are probably thinking about our 2019 goals this week. Here are some questions to consider when deciding on your goals.

It’s the end of the year so, naturally, we’re starting to think about the changes we want to make in 2019. Rather than trying to come up with “resolutions,” which often get abandoned by the middle of January, come up with goals for your life and career in the year ahead.

Not sure how to set your goals? Here are some suggestions with :

Reevaluate Your Priorities

It is time to sit down and ask yourself some important questions. How are you spending your day? Are you doing the things that are truly important to you?

It is a great opportunity to sit down and ask yourself some important questions:

  • How are you spending your day?
  • Are you doing the things that are truly important to you?
  • Are you making the most of your time with the people you love — or are you wasting your energy on things that won’t matter two days from now? You might be surprised by what you discover.

Try to be honest with yourself despite the fact that can be painful. It is really worth it.

Be really honest with yourself here. It can be painful to do but it’s worth it. Whether you’re letting your work-life spill into your personal time, allowing social media to distract you from your kids or putting off a trip to the doctor because you’re busy, make changes that will give your life more meaning.

Drop the Drama

It would be great if we could all get along, but the reality is that some people just don’t gel — and that’s okay. You can still love someone while maintaining a healthy distance. Yes, you can give yourself permission to put up boundaries when certain relationships, both professional and personal, leave you feeling drained.

It’s tempting to just slip into the shadows, but in these situations facing the problem, head-on is best. Be direct, but not emotional about your reason for pulling away as well as the behaviors that you’ll no longer tolerate — and then let it be. Don’t argue. Just move on.

Do more of what fuels you

We can’t always do things that we enjoy, but we don’t have to consign ourselves to a life of dreariness and misery either. We realize that taking part in specific exercises appears to fuel our weary soul, so are you making sure you have enough of that in your life? If not, make that a goal for 2019.

Start saying “No”

Every day, we are faced with a million requests and more often than not, we automatically say yes. In fact, many of us feel like we have to say yes even if we don’t want to. Then, we end up doing things we don’t want to do, leaving us feeling frustrated and resentful. What would happen, however, if you started saying no?

Of course, you have to obey the law and do certain other things that you’d rather not, but if you hate meeting with certain people for lunch or would rather not try the drink your server suggests at your favorite restaurant, just say no. It might be strange and even difficult the first few times but, with practice, it will get much easier to set clear boundaries (and stick to them).

How to set goals: Simplify, Simplify, Simplify

Our modern lives have become outrageously hectic. While it’s great that technology has given us the ability to multitask at a much higher level, we’ve also started taking on more than we should (which is another reason why it’s important to learn to say no!). On top of that, our homes, vehicles, and workplaces are often cluttered, which can add to any feelings of being frazzled.

This year, make an effort to simplify your life. Whittle down your obligations, shed unnecessary possessions and, when you’re spending time with someone, focus only on them. In no time, you may notice yourself feeling calmer and better able to concentrate on the task at hand.

As we head into another new year, instead of resolutions, create some goals for your personal life and career. Think about what you want to accomplish and then break it down into steps that are reasonable and attainable. Celebrate your small victories and, when you stumble, pick yourself up and get back on track. A New Year, but will you be making changes?

When I set my goals, habits, and intentions, it is not just a “carryforward” of all the things I was not able to accomplish the previous year.  It’s a reflection on whether I am the person I want to be and whether my values (which do change over the years) are reflected in my goals, habits, and intentions for the next year.

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Life’s an amazing journey. Make it count!

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