What is happiness?
Think of the times when you experienced a positive emotion like joy, pride, gratitude, interest, hope…
- Do you have your answer yet?
- Was it when you were with your family or friends or your loved ones?
- Was it the time when you helped somebody in need?
- Was it after completing a workout or a difficult trek?
- Was it after doing something you really love like sports or playing an instrument, etc?
- Was when you finally succeeded in something you had been working hard for?
- Or was it something that made you discover your strengths and virtues?
If you answered to even 3 of those questions ‘yes’, then you know what happiness really feels like.
Now ask yourself, do you really think you need a definition for happiness to know what happiness feels like?
Happiness is not something that comes wrapped in a package or is found hanging on trees. True and real happiness is what comes from within. Each and every one of us knows what happiness feels like because we have felt it. Nobody tells us that it’s time to be happy or we should be happy now, we just know it when we are.
As far as the technical definition is concerned: Happiness defines a happy person as someone who experiences frequent positive emotions, such as joy, interest, and pride, and infrequent (though not absent) negative emotions, such as sadness, anxiety, and anger (Lyubomirsky et al., 2005)
The Science of Happiness
The phrase “the science of happiness” refers to a new field of social science called positive psychology, founded by Dr. Martin Seligman and Dr. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. Contrary to popular belief, it is not “positive thinking” or self-help, but a broad empirical field of research and application worldwide. According to one of its pioneers Chris Peterson, simply put, positive psychology is the study of those things that make life worth living.
While traditional psychology helps us get less of what we don’t want and fix the things that are wrong with us; positive psychology functions constructively in helping us get more of what we do want, and making ourselves better, happier people.
“The Science of Happiness” is not just a new term that has been introduced in the market. A lot of research being done on happiness and it has been proved that certain changes do happen in our brain when we’re happy that have a positive effect on our body.
So, let the little things in life make you happy and let it come from within. That is the only place you will ever find it. Sometimes we all struggle a little in life. Happiness seems to have vanished even on the inside. That’s not the time to worry, in fact, it’s okay, we’re all there at some point or other in our lives. That is when we reach out to others who love us, and they can help us bring back our happiness and in return, we can help somebody else find their happiness.
In The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.