Luckily, more and more people are decluttering their lives, getting more organised, and understanding that we need less of the material things in order to have more freedom.
One aspect often gets forgotten, though, and that’s our spiritual well-being. It’s as important as physical health, but we seem to skip that part when changing ourselves and improving the quality of our life.
We are constantly bombarded by all the thoughts in our heads – which are too many and, often, too negative – that give birth to stress and anxiety. And then, the stress and anxiety from there lead to all sorts of unpleasant situations. Being stressed out prevents you from keeping your focus and keeps you from doing your best at work and/or school. Anxiety doesn’t let you enjoy life for what is today because you always worry about what might happen tomorrow. Negativism turns you into a complainer and impacts those around you too.
I can go on like that forever because the consequences of not decluttering your mind and soul are endless. For now, let’s concentrate on finding a solution. How can we declutter our mind and spirit to live more peacefully, happily, and freely?
Here are some great ways:
1. Leave the past behind
A negative mental pattern we develop unconsciously is to often think about events from the past and bring all the bad feelings into the present moment. As a result, we literally relive it and feel awful again. Be it a breakup, a painful memory, a mistake you made, or how others treated you when you were insecure – all this must be left behind. It belongs in the past and if you think about it, you evoke the same emotions when you bring those old wounds back into the light. In turn, it ruins your present and your whole day. Don’t let it happen anymore. Practice letting go. When you notice another thought about the past popping up in your mind, stop, remember that it’s already in the past and there’s nothing you can do about it, come back to this moment, breathe deeply, and let go of it.
Having such an attitude towards anything related to the past will make you a happier person in no time.
2. Stop overthinking
Less is better. That’s the case for the number of thoughts in our mind too. Thinking might be good in many situations in life, but when it’s purposeless and only makes us worry and imagine negative scenarios, an empty mind would be a better option. Overthinking means constantly trying to figure out how things will turn out, what people think about you, what might go wrong, whether or not what you want to do is worth it, etc. The main similarity between all these is that they are pointless. Such thoughts stop you from taking action, make you feel awkward when socializing, and turn every moment into desperate anticipation of the next one.
How do you declutter your mind and soul if overthinking has become your habit? By getting better at emptying your mind with daily exercises. It doesn’t need to be anything complex. Start meditating for five minutes every morning. Then, add another session before you go to bed. Simply find an isolated place, sit down, start breathing deeply, and focus either on your breath or on one positive thought you think of. The point is to practice mindfulness and to quiet your mind. It won’t happen from day one, so be patient. Do it the next morning too, and feel how it gets easier over time. Soon, you’ll turn that into your constant state of mind and unnecessary thoughts won’t have any place there. It will be only freedom, contentment, and presence.
3. Limit the information you consume
Information overload is a real thing. There’s so much going on at any moment that if we want to stay up-to-date, we risk losing our sanity. Social media doesn’t make this any easier either. Every time you scroll down your feed on one network, you might feel overwhelmed by seeing all the stuff being posted, you might want to read more about it all, might feel bad about something, or might start comparing your life to how others are living theirs and feel depressed. That’s just five minutes of someone’s day. Then you open your inbox and see tons of news emails, each with different links that make you want to know more. Later in the day, you receive even more information from all types of sources, other people bother you with their problems, devices are everywhere, someone texts you, or you receive notifications every 15 minutes, and that just never stops. Unless you decide to put an end to it. You can’t have peace of mind with all these facts in your head, 90% of which are absolutely unimportant. So, here’s the solution:
- Say a big “no” to most of these sources of information
- Set a limit for using social media and checking email
- Don’t read stuff that doesn’t concern you or the industry you work in
- Unsubscribe from all newsletters and only check out the sites that truly provide meaningful information
- Practice emptying your mind a few times during the day
4. Replace expectations with acceptance
Think about this. We expect so much from ourselves and those around us, that this prevents us from being who we are and taking risks, from enjoying other people’s company and being grateful for having them in our life. Expectations are bad. We are never satisfied and there’s always something else to expect. So let’s ditch them. And replace them with something better – acceptance. I’m talking about accepting yourself for who you are and smiling for this, but also knowing you can always improve if you work hard and believe in yourself. I’m talking about accepting every person in your life as an individual, and not waiting for them to react in a certain way, not judging or blaming them. Simply being there for them, accepting their lifestyle and qualities, and appreciating having people who love you. That small change will make a big difference in all of your relationships and will make you happier every day because you won’t be expecting so much, and won’t be stressing over not meeting these expectations. Now that you know why simplicity is good for us in general, and that it’s also beneficial to our peace of mind and happiness, you won’t live your days unconsciously anymore. Happiness is within you!
Take one little step today, like saying “no” to a thought from the past, quieting the voices in your head before bed, or smiling for what you already have, and see the instant transformation in your mind.